“We need to stop framing equality as a nice bonus to a happy marriage. It is the bare minimum. Inequality is not inevitable. It’s not just the way men are, or a minor inconvenience. It’s time women listen to their own needs and value their own work. Household chore inequality exacts a real toll on our health and well-being. It is abuse. Like other forms of abuse, it exploits one person for the other’s gain. And like other forms of abuse, there is no excuse,” declares Zawn Villines in her article entitled, “Household Labor Inequality is Domestic Abuse.”
What is her solution? “A man who can happily watch his wife work herself into illness and depression does not care about his wife—or his children. Kick his a** to the curb. Every woman deserves better. Every child deserves to grow up in a house that acknowledges the full humanity and needs of both parents. This abuse can stop with our generation of mothers, but only if we demand better.”
I agree with pretty much everything written above. Surely Lori couldn’t be against such a message? Yes, she absolutely can:
“This is what feminism has led to, women. It’s led to the deterioration of marriage. “Abuse” being the term used for many things that aren’t actual abuse.”
The word “abuse” tends to bring to mind violence, but this isn’t necessarily the definition. It can more broadly mean simply mistreating someone. And yes, I would agree that insisting that someone else carry a greater burden in a relationship is mistreating them.
“Women becoming angrier and initiating almost up to 80 percent of divorces and devastating their children’s lives.”
Lori loves to spout this statistic even when it has nothing to do with what she’s talking about. She gets a sick joy from putting down women. Even if it’s true (and I’m highly skeptical any time Lori says the words “statistics”, “study”, or “facts”), she fails to ask why this is the case. Perhaps men are more likely to be abusive or unfaithful! What a thought!
“God created women to have this job and this is why there is such a struggle with housework. Even full-time working mothers have most of the housework fall upon their shoulders, because they were created to do this no matter how much they hate it.”
The Bible never even hints that there is a decree from God that women do the housework. Lori is quick to point out when something isn’t explicitly commanded in the Bible, until she’s discussing her own made up ideas. And it certainly never says women were created entirely to cook and clean. Quite the opposite in fact. How could anyone ever respect women if they were made for nothing but this? It is little wonder that those who believe as Lori do have such a low view of women, no matter how much they pretend not to.
Also, how can she be so blind to the obvious fact that it is because of people like her that full-time working mothers have most of the housework fall on their shoulders? She fantasizes that somehow it’s due to biology or God’s command or something, but has she considered that if you arbitrarily tell men they are exempt from helping around the house, they probably won’t help around the house anymore? And that if you brainwash women into thinking it’s their burden alone, they probably will push themselves to do it and not ask for help? She might as well abuse a litter of puppies and then declare their behavior is evidence that dogs are naturally timid.
"Yes, some husbands help and share equally in the household chores but many do not. This is what my first viral post was about. Housework has destroyed way too many marriages and it’s due to women leaving their God-ordained roles. God created women to be their husbands’ help meets not the other way around but feminism has forced husbands to be their wives’ help meets even if the husbands don’t want to be. Women demand it."
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: if a marriage can be destroyed by arguments over housework, it was a weak and sickly marriage in the first place. Rather than going to the source and trying to strengthen the marriage, Lori consistently suggests we just artificially avoid and ignore the conflict. And if a husband would leave a wife because she isn’t doing all the housework, he never wanted a wife at all. He should have just hired a housekeeper.
Also, once again, Lori doesn’t understand what “help meet” actually means. She seems to imagine it means a wife is to be her husband’s assistant or secretary. But the Hebrew word for “help meet,” ezer, is used most often in the Old Testament to refer to God Himself as He helps humanity. Clearly, a subordinate position is nowhere implied in the text and comes only from Lori’s own mind. The man and woman in Genesis are to be partners, not employer and employee. If Lori wants to be a secretary that badly, she should go get a job.
Link to the original blog: https://thetransformedwife.com/household-inequality-is-domestic-abuse/
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