There is a lot of contention among believers over many things. This should not be named among believers in Jesus Christ! “But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another” (Galatians 5:15). Yes, hold firm to your convictions but share them in kindness, not to dominate others.
She uses this to transition into one of her rants about how wives can be the best doormats for their husbands:
In all of these things, women, is your husband the one who decides? Does he decide whether or not you celebrate Christmas and Easter? How about vaccinations? Is he the one who has the final say on this issue even if you disagree? What about headcoverings? Do you wear one if he wants you to and do you not wear one if he doesn’t want you to wear one?
Let me start by stating the obvious:none of this is biblical. Lori is so quick to point out that there is no Bible verse commanding women to work a 9 to 5 job, or to have real estate licenses, or to use a specific form of birth control, but then she'll turn around and present piles upon piles of her own ideas as if they were straight out of the Bible.
How about husbands and wives decide together whether to celebrate certain holidays, if they should vaccinate their kids, or how to dress? The only reason anyone would be opposed to this is if he has such a huge ego that he can't stand the thought of working with someone else as an equal. And this is precisely the kind of person who should not have absolute power.
She goes on to list other decisions that supposedly are up to the husband alone, such as how modestly a wife should dress, whether to spank your children, and even what Bible translation to use. There is no point to any of this unless a husband is so fragile and egotistical that he must have complete control over another. My wife can read whatever Bible version she wants, thank you!
Do you cause contention about this in your home or do you let him decide since he is the leader of the family?
Once again, the Bible never calls husbands the leader of the family. Every time Paul refers to the husband as the "head" of the wife, he could have used the Greek word arche for "head", which really does mean "leader." Instead, however, he used kephale, which does not have anything to do with subordination and has more to do wtih falling in line among equals.
Note also how she blames the wife for causing contention for simply wanting an equal voice, and not the husband for declaring himself dictator for life!
All of these are big issues to many of us and most of us have very strong convictions about them BUT we must remind ourselves that God made our husbands as head over us (the ones in authority) and we are commanded to live in submission to them. God has given our husbands the authority to decide these issues, not us.
More of the same. Nothing can be found in the Bible giving husbands the authority to decide any issues alone, let alone these specific ones. I truly wonder where people who believe as Lori does come up with this idea! And yet, they all believe without question that the husband is to be the final decision-maker in the home. Likely they all unquestioningly follow whatever their opportunistic leaders teach them and never even realize such ideas are not actually biblical.
Sure, we can share our opinions and what we believe is best, but we must not quarrel or cause contention about them.
She claims wives should be able to share their opinions, but she so frequently praises wives who literally remain quiet and go along with everything that I think she's simply pretending she thinks it's okay for women to do so. Trying to sound reasonable I suppose. Of course, she would label as "contentious" any contradictory opinion anyway.
No, we don’t submit to evil but none of the above are clearly in the “evil” category...
Yet another unbiblical idea: that wives must obey husbands as long as they are not commanded to sin. Some are even more extreme than Lori and suggest wives should obey their husbands even if they do command them to sin, and that the responsibility will fall on the husband. However, even Lori's less-extreme idea is extreme enough. Before I was blocked on Facebook, I asked her if she is required to obey if her husband commanded her to hop on one foot and sing Old MacDonald. Ken replied to me and told me she laughed when she saw my comment and said yes, she would do so, that it might be fun! This is the absurd lengths to which such people must go to defend the supposed supremacy of men. Alas, I didn't get a screenshot...how I wish I had!
She then launches into a random speech on her position on vaccines, while still saying if a man wants his children vaccinated that the wife should have no say in the matter. "This is the husband's decision, in the end," she says. I just have one question: Why???? My wife and I will continue making decisions together, and we certainly haven't had an difficulties as a result of this arrangement.
Like I said, this whole blog was random and unfocused. Some days it seems she can't think of anything to write and just says whatever will make egotistical men feel good about themselves. If only she would take up a hobby instead of insisting on writing every day!
Like I said, this whole blog was random and unfocused. Some days it seems she can't think of anything to write and just says whatever will make egotistical men feel good about themselves. If only she would take up a hobby instead of insisting on writing every day!
Link to the original blog: https://thetransformedwife.com/is-your-husband-truly-the-head-of-your-family/
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