Response to "The Government is Preventing Them from Getting Married!"

       My title isn't technically correct...Lori actually wrote "geting married". Apparently she is just as careful with her proofreading as she is with her biblical interpretation. 

       This blog was written in response to the following comment from one of Lori's fans: 

“Hey Lori! Love your posts! Could you make one about wedding cancellations in light of COVID? I’m supposed to be getting married in nine weeks and we are unsure about whether to cancel or not. (Our state has even stopped allowing people to get marriage licenses.) As a couple who have remained pure for our wedding, we are obviously super against having to postpone/wait any longer. Also, we want to start having children! I know a lot of young women are facing this situation. (I have a few friends in similar situations and we all follow you on here.) Could you do a post about what your thoughts are on getting married and starting to have babies in this situation when the government is trying to prevent us from getting married?”

Lori's response is on topic at first but then quickly falls off the rails. I suspect this is one of those times when she wasn't sure what to write about and had to come up with something in a hurry. She says: 

It reminded me of the verse in the Bible that states that in the last days, they will forbid people from marrying (1 Timothy 4:3).

Once again, Lori reveals how little she knows about the Bible. This verse has nothing to do with the government forbidding people from marrying (and I would argue that the government is not doing this, but that's another topic). In context, Paul is talking about certain religious groups forbidding marriage and teaching people to abstain from certain foods. In other words, Paul is talking about those who try to keep Christians under the Old Testament law when Jesus clearly freed us from it. There were many movements in the early church like this, and Paul spends a lot of time in the New Testament refuting various false teachings such as this. Lori, please remember you can't just pick a verse out of a hat and use it to say whatever you want it to say. It has an actual intended meaning, and you would do us all a favor if you would make an attempt to learn what that is. 

       Lori continues:

My encouragement to all of you who are in this situation is to go to your pastor and have him marry you as soon as possible, especially if you are in a state that has a Democrat as a governor since who knows when they will allow freedom to the people.

I just wanted to say here that it's rather idiotic for Lori to pretend this is somehow limited to Democrat governors. I live in a state with a Republican governor that is on lockdown, and I know we're not the only state. Not to mention the fact that her favorite president, Trump is entirely on board with the lockdowns as well. Of course, there is no mention of Trump's involvement in that decision! 

Have your family and close friends in a backyard or home for your wedding. These will be the witnesses of your vows to each other. God tells us that it is better to marry than to burn and there’s nothing about government involvement in any of this process. You can become one flesh without government approval! Once everything opens up, you can go to the justice and get a marriage certificate and even have a more fancy wedding if you want, although you may be pregnant by then but so what!

Once again, Lori reminds us that she believes it's best to get married as soon as possible to avoid premarital sex. In fact, sometimes it sounds like she believes the primary purpose of marriage is to prevent people from having sex outside of marriage. And the comment about possibly being pregnant at a future wedding ceremony is just creepy...why is Lori so obsessed with women getting pregnant, especially as early in the marriage as possible? 

About having babies, as long as the good Lord is blessing your womb, then keep having babies! NONE of us know what the future holds but babies are one of His greatest blessings! Women have been having them through all of the difficult times since time began. It’s part of being a woman and allowing your body to do as God has created it. Have as many as He wants to bless you with!

To be clear, I certainly don't think this current epidemic is the end of the world, or that we should fear having children. However, there may be some who are hesitant and would like to wait until things settle down, and there's nothing wrong with that. Lori thinks everyone should throw caution to the wind when it comes to having children and just have as many as possible. In many cases, this is not a very loving choice. Children are more than quotas, and there's nothing wrong with waiting until you're ready to have them. (well, now that I have kids, I don't think it's possible to be entirely ready, but you know what I mean!. 

There’s a young woman I know who is pregnant with her fourth. Her oldest isn’t even four years old yet! She LOVES being married and having children. She smiles at the future, because she knows God is in control and ALWAYS will be. There is no need to live in fear but live boldly by faith in Almighty God. Just make sure that you don’t ever neglect your husband. You were created to be HIS help meet first. Enjoy your husband and children, Don’t wait! Life is short. If you have a man who wants to marry you and have children, marry him and have children!

This is a perfect example of what I meant when I said this blog falls off the rails. I'm not sure exactly what her topic is in this last paragraph. She begins with more fantasizing about pregnant women, briefly mentions the need for wives to not neglect their husbands, and then somehow ends up at who to choose for a spouse. And it's here that I will conclude. "If you have a man who wants to marry you and have children, marry him and have children"?!? If her criteria were made more any more broad than this it would include any mammal. Her end goal simply is as many marriages as possible, and the people involved are nothing more than means to that end. It doesn't matter to her whether two people love each other, work well together, have similar goals, etc. Of course, if you view marriage as nothing more than a cold contract most closely resembling an employer/employee relationship, I suppose it really doesn't matter who you marry. 


Link to the original blog: https://thetransformedwife.com/the-government-is-preventing-them-from-getting-married/